Practical ways to help people
who live with complex dissociative conditions to feel safe.
Adapted from those attending the FPP Members Open Meeting
held on 4th April 2009,
- Carers, supporters, friends, family, professionals to understand the huge
importance of consistency, stability, structure, routine and predictability needed by
us in our day to day living in order to feel safe. No surprises please.
- Carers, supporters, friends, family, professionals to relate with understanding to us
as human beings, to trust us and be non judgemental.
- Supporters and professionals to be aware and to keep within appropriate
boundaries (which those with dissociation find hard) and keep the correct balance
between professionalism and friendliness.
- Carers, supporters, friends, family, professionals, after discussion and agreement
with you, know what to do for your own safety.
- Carers, supporters, friends, family, professionals to be real, as defensiveness back
from others causes inner chaos and can bring on a sense of being unreal. This can
cause us to start on an invisible downward spiral.
- Carers, supporters, friends, family, professionals to hold your hope when you
cannot.
- Having someone who is close and knows you well, who can keep you
safe, when your own sense of self is lost can be vital in times of crisis.
- Always keep with you special objects or grounding aids that they can use to help self-soothing.
- Cater for all those headmates who need you to be there for each of them and trust you to look after them. They are likely to have differing needs
- Relate to the headmate that is out.
- Putting in place, and encourage when appropriate, items to help them be organised, keep track of events e.g. diary,
notebook, and whiteboard.
- To plan backup strategies to help with daily living when things are not too
good.
- Encourage to leave permanent messages around their home, e.g. “You are safe
here.”
- Give plenty of notice of upcoming events whenever possible and on a
good day help them put in place as much preparation as you can.
- Understand that for some headmates keeping the system safe can sometimes mean having no choice to end it all if it feels
impossible.
- Being aware of potential tiggers and having available objects that different parts might need at
times of distress.
- Being realistic and realising safety is not always possible.
- Checking out as much as possible details of places/events etc so can avoid known
triggers.
- Having a clear crisis plan written down and given and understood to all
carers, supporters, friends, family, professionals who have a need to know.
- Ensuring trusted others are sensitive to knowing if they are “losing it” they are trusting that what you will respond and react the way they would want you to.
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